Breaking Free from Survival Mode

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It feels like we’ve been conditioned to live in a constant state of survival mode, pushing through exhaustion and believing that “one day” we’ll finally find rest and joy. As moms, we hear messages reinforcing this: that we should be tired, overwhelmed, and resigned to merely getting by. But what if we challenged these ideas and embraced a thriving mindset instead?

Shifting from Survival Mode to Thriving

For instance, we’ve all heard the warnings about the “terrible twos.” But what if this phase isn’t inevitable? With patience, consistent parenting, and the right routines, the toddler years don’t have to be filled with chaos. I wish I had understood this with my first child! Early behavior training helps establish a peaceful home, preventing unnecessary stress and exhaustion.

Or take sleep deprivation. How often are new moms told, “Once that baby comes, you’ll never sleep again!”—as if struggling through sleepless nights is just part of motherhood? In reality, healthy sleep habits can be nurtured from the start, benefiting both mom and baby. Babies grow and heal while they sleep, and so do we.

Teaching good sleep practices early on is key to breaking free from mom burnout and prioritizing family well-being.

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Redefining “Normal” for Your Family

There’s also a common assumption that “normal” looks the same for everyone, but normalcy is relative. What works for one family may not work for yours—and that’s okay. You don’t have to settle for a stress-filled routine just because society says “that’s the way it is.”

I’ve learned this firsthand. When I was pregnant and experiencing pain, my doctor told me, “Just stop exercising.” I followed the advice, thinking it was the responsible choice. But my pain only got worse, and for years, I couldn’t enjoy simple activities like sitting on the floor or going for walks. When I finally found the right help, I was able to reclaim those moments of joy and health.

family playing with the dog

How to Thrive Instead of Survive

We don’t have to just get by. There’s an abundant life waiting for us if we’re willing to step off the hamster wheel. Instead of striving for what you think you need, start thriving in motherhood right where you are. Here are a few ways to shift out of survival mode:

• Prioritize Rest: Sleep is not a luxury—it’s essential. Implement healthy sleep routines for both you and your kids.

• Establish Rhythms: Consistent daily rhythms reduce stress and create peace in your home.

• Let Go of Perfectionism: Striving for a picture-perfect life keeps you stuck. Focus on progress, not perfection.

• Ask for Help: Thriving doesn’t mean doing everything alone. Build a support system and delegate where you can.

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It’s time to break free from survival mode and step into a life that feels joy-filled, balanced, and abundant. The fullness you’ve been longing for has been waiting for you all along!