Why You’re Not Sleeping—and What Queens Know About Getting Help

Let’s just say it how it is: I’m not sure I’ve had a full night of sleep since the night before my first baby was born.

And I know I’m not the only one.

Because once you become a mother, your body may lay down, but your spirit stays on call.

You hear everything.

Every cough. Every cry. Every call for “Mama.”

Even the silence gets loud when you're a mom.

But here’s the thing I don’t think we talk about enough:Lack of sleep isn’t just about fussy babies or teething toddlers. A huge part of it comes from something deeper…We don’t have support.

The Village That’s Missing

We were never meant to raise children alone.

For generations, women lived in community—shoulder to shoulder, with grandmothers, sisters, aunties, neighbors. They shared the load. They cooked together. Took turns rocking babies. Passed wisdom around like heirlooms.

But today? We’re more isolated than ever.

Many grandmothers are still in the workforce—not because they want to hustle forever, but because they have to. Retirement isn’t easy. Finances are tight. And the support we once counted on from older generations has been stretched thin.

We live in separate homes. Separate cities. We don't have the built-in back-up we used to have. And even when people offer to help… we feel guilty for accepting it.

But —you were never meant to carry all this alone.

Even Queens Don’t Do It All

Think about it… Queens don’t run around doing everything on their own. Queens have help. Not just because they’re royalty—but because their role is too important to be buried in burnout.

They don’t cook every meal, clean every corner, and answer every cry by themselves.

They reserve their energy for the work only they can do. The deep, meaningful, generational work.

You, sweet mama, are a queen. Your role is holy. Sacred. Kingdom-level important.

But you can’t operate in your fullness if you’re running on fumes and fighting to survive each day alone.

So How Do You Build That Support?

It starts with something that’s hard for many of us:

1. Ask for help. It’s not weakness—it’s wisdom. We were designed for communion, not independence. Text the friend. Call the sister. Hire the sitter. Say the words:

“Could you come over for an hour while I nap?”

2. Accept help.When someone offers to watch the kids, bring a meal, or fold laundry—say YES. You don’t need to prove you can do it all. You need to be healthy and whole for the ones who need you.

3. Build intentional community. Look for moms in your neighborhood, at church, in your kids’ activities. Start small: invite one mom over for coffee. Host a “bring your kids” playdate. It doesn’t have to be fancy—it just needs to be real.

4. Pray for divine connections. Ask God to send women into your life who get it. And be willing to be that woman for someone else. Community is built through both giving and receiving.

You’re Not Failing—You’re Functioning Without Support

This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing life differently. More together. Less alone.

You don’t need to “try harder”—you need to link arms.

Because when women walk in communion—like we were created to—we find strength we didn’t know we had. And that bone-deep exhaustion starts to lift when we’re no longer carrying the weight by ourselves.

So today, I just want to speak this over you:

You are not alone.

You are not weak.

You are not failing.

You are a queen—And queens don’t do life without help.

Go build your village. Your sleep—and your soul—need it.

👑 Want to Start Living Like the Queen You Are?

You were never meant to do life alone.

But between sleepless nights, never-ending to-do lists, and the invisible weight of motherhood, it’s easy to forget that royalty doesn’t go it alone.

That’s why I created a free gift just for you: The Queen’s Circle Guide — 7 Powerful Steps to Build Your Support System and Reclaim Your Energy.

💌 Inside this PDF, you’ll learn how to:

• Ask for help without guilt

• Accept it like a queen (because you deserve it)

• Surround yourself with the right people — ones who lift you higher

• Reclaim your energy for the things that matter most

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Because queens don’t burn out. They delegate.And they rise—together.